Millers in Shanghai

Millers in Shanghai

Sunday, November 27, 2005

Letter: 27 November 2005

Happy Thanksgiving

We had a great time celebrating Thanksgiving this year. It seemed strange to have it so warm and the excitement of the season missing from the air, but we celebrated anyway. We kept the boys home from school and Creed took the day off. We invited another family over to celebrate it with us. We had a couple of exciting things happen the day before that nearly put a kink in our Thanksgiving. First, we almost didn’t have a bird. Apparently, the Butterball I special ordered from the US was stuck in customs. We got a kick out of that, but I feel badly for the store that ordered so many. They’re now stuck with a bunch of turkeys assuming they get out of customs sometime soon. The store called me Wednesday afternoon to tell me what happened and asked if we wanted a Norbest turkey instead. They were quite a bit smaller, but I told them to deliver one to me anyway. It was frozen solid but this tropical climate defrosted it just in time to be cooked. We were able to cook it in our little oven and didn’t have to BBQ it.

The other exciting thing was that we ran out of water. Our maid came in on Wednesday afternoon and said, “Sorry Mrs. No water.” I clarified with her what she meant and learned our water tank was empty. I thought, ‘No big deal. We drink and cook with bottled water anyway. How will this affect me that much?’ Then I realized, no laundry could be done and no dishes could be washed. We couldn’t take showers or flush the toilet. I also realized that our staff, who are all Muslim, couldn’t pray (they pray 5 times a day) without clean water because they have to wash themselves before they pray. They asked us if they could have some pool water.

Our driver was on the phone quite a few times trying to get someone from the water company to come and fix it for us. Thursday morning came and we still had no water. I went to work out at the gym (mostly so I could have a shower in the locker room afterward - he he ha ha) and came back hoping it would be fixed. Finally someone came and told us that a pipe or connection near our house had been broken (and was now fixed), so it had affected several homes in our neighborhood. Our staff filled up our ground tanks (I really don’t understand the whole process and have given up trying to understand it) after scrubbing them clean in an attempt to stop the yellow and brown water we were getting out of the faucets in our house. We were happy to have water again!

I think the best part of this Thanksgiving was the fact that we have house help. In all our baking, cooking and eating we didn’t have to wash one dish or clean up. It was very relaxing and enjoyable. Our staff was in the kitchen most of the day washing and cleaning and helping me cook.

Just for those of you that have had Thanksgiving with us in the past, yes, the pie extravaganza happened. We are still enjoying it!

I was sad to miss out on the annual day after Thanksgiving shopping and looked up the ads on-line just to see what I was missing. Boo Hoo!

Nash’s Lesson

For our Family Home Evening lesson last week, Nash taught us about being thankful. He took us into his 4x10 walk in closet and turned off the lights. Then while it was dark, he talked to us about how most people in Indonesia live like that; in a small hut made out of anything they can find with more than six people and no electricity. He then talked to us about how hard it is for them to survive and what they have to eat. It was a good lesson for all of us. Nash has been studying ‘feeding the thousands’ at school which is a unit on how Indonesia faces the challenges of feeding the millions of people in this country and how many of them are poor and malnourished. It has been on all of our minds because we see it when we are driving around the city – it is difficult to see so many people in such circumstances. It really reminds us of how blessed we are and how it is our responsibility to share what we have with those around us.

The Christmas season has begun

Two weeks ago we purchased an artificial Christmas tree at Ace Hardware (no Christmas tree farms here in Indonesia) and we set it up on Friday night. We also pulled out the two boxes of decorations that we brought. I was sad to see how little we brought with us. I left some of our favorite Christmas decorations in Michigan. Now I’m wishing we brought them, however, Creed reminded me that I said I didn’t want them to get ruined so I left them to be stored in Michigan. Our tree looks rather pathetic and so does the half decorated banister. I’ll have to try to find something to make things look a little better. At least we have a tree, though, and we brought all of our Christmas music.

I went shopping at a huge market last week and was happy to find very reasonable prized 3 ft. fake Christmas trees and little decorations. I bought one for each of the boys’ rooms and surprised them when they came home from school. I was talking to Nash and he got rather sad and said, “It doesn’t seem like Christmas time. There’s no snow, Mom, and not many decorations around.” I said,” Maybe this will help.” And pulled out the trees. They were all so excited and immediately started putting their trees together and decorating them. They have enjoyed going to sleep each night with their trees lit up.

Luke’s Plant

Luke grew some sort of bean plant at school and brought it home last week. He was so proud of it and how big it had grown. He wanted Kandar, our gardener, to plant it outside. He asked Warsi (our maid) how to ask Kandar to plant it (Kandar doesn’t speak English). Warsi told him and Luke marched outside and in Indonesian, asked Kandar to plant it. It was cute to see how excited he was and how easy it was to speak Indonesian. I wish my mind was like that.

Nash’s Mangosteen

Nash has been studying a fruit called the mangosteen for school. He had been reading about it at school and looking up information on-line. We couldn’t find it in any of the stores where we shop but our driver, Cartim, knew a market where he could buy them. On the day Cartim brought them home for us, we all tried some. It is a strange fruit – not the best fruit in the world, but not terrible, either. We all had fun peeling it, examining it and then trying a piece. You can find all sorts of exotic fruits here in Indonesia.

Baseball

We had three baseball games in the rain yesterday. We were all soaking wet, but at least we weren’t sweaty. The boys were all troopers and not any of the children complained. I was impressed by all the teams.

When we came home from the games, our shoes were all muddy. We took them off in the garage. Later, as we were leaving for something else, we noticed our gardener squatting down with the hose and a scrub brush scrubbing all our shoes. They are spotless!!! What lives we lead.

We hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. We think about you all often.

The Millers

Photos: Thanksgiving & Day After - 24/25 November 2005





Thanksgiving Dinner with the Powell family. Grant was the after-dinner entertainment.
Photos we never thought we would take in our house -- setting up an artificial Christmas tree.

Photos: Mangosteen 23 November 2005







Trying the mangosteen for Nash's school project. Not everyone in the family liked it, as you can see.

Sunday, November 20, 2005

Letter: 20 Nov 2005

Mallory’s Birthday

Mallory turned one on the 10th. It’s hard to believe that a year has passed so quickly. I made a cake that looked like a watermelon because that is her favorite thing to eat. She wasn’t sure what to think of everything. I found a little princess party hat and put in on her head when we sang to her. We had invited our friends, the Willis family, over and then called in our househelp, who adore Mallory. We all sang to her and she was all smiles. When we gave her a piece of cake and a scoop of ice cream she looked at it and picked up the whole scoop of ice cream. She held it for a second and then just started to cry because of how cold it was. She wouldn’t let go of it though. We had to make her drop the scoop. Then she wouldn’t touch the cake, I assume because she thought it was just as cold as the ice cream. I finally got her to eat a piece off a spoon and she was happy.

We found some Fisher Price toys in one of the toy stores here. Unfortunately, they are two to three times the US price. We bought a few anyway and she has really enjoyed them. A couple of them play songs and I often see her playing with them and dancing. She’s a fun little girl and very different from the boys.

I found some strawberries at the grocery store last week. I put two on her high chair tray for lunch that day. She looked at them, picked them up and started to eat them. I walked away and then heard, ‘NO!”. I walked over to her and found the strawberries on the floor. I picked them up and got her some new ones. This time, I sliced them and put them on her tray. She looked at me with a look like, “Hey lady. I told you I didn’t want these!” yelled, “NO!” and swiped them off her tray again. I got the hint. She definitely has an opinion.

Her new words are Ba Ba which means baby, she says ‘Wow’ every time she hears thunder, and says, ‘Da Da’ which is Indonesian for ‘Bye’.

After much searching, I found some new sandals for her. They squeak when she steps and she thinks they’re the greatest thing. She loves to walk around and hear them squeak. When she does, she’s all smiles.

Baseball

The boys started baseball a couple of weeks ago. We now spend our Saturdays up at the school on the baseball diamonds. Luke’s and Grant’s games are in the morning and Nash’s in the afternoon. It gets so hot sitting there for hours. We’re all so hot and sweaty after the games we usually come home and all take a swim.

Grant was the pitcher yesterday during one of the innings (it’s machine pitch but he has to catch the return balls). One of his friends, Arama, was on the other team and was up to bat. He hit the ball straight for Grant and it hit him in the shin. I totally missed the whole thing, but noticed Creed was carrying Grant off the field. When I got to the dugout I looked at Grant’s shin. There was a purple bump swollen about an inch already. It looked horribly painful. Several parents were around with ice and ointment. Grant did not shed one tear! I was so shocked and so was everyone else. Today it is bruised and very sore. I told Grant that he was very brave. He said to me, ‘Arama said he could hit hard.”

United Nations Day at School

This past week the boys had UN week at school. They had to decorate several posters with things from their home country. Now, had I known this, I would have brought a few more things. I had one piece of American Flag scrapbook paper and we made it go as far as we could.

On Friday, the entire school had to come to school in their home country’s traditional costumes. Grant, in preparing for it said, “Mom, America is dumb. We don’t have any cool costumes.” I said, “Yes, we have cowboys.” He looked at me and said, “That’s not American, that’s from Texas!”

I finally convinced him to wear a plaid shirt, jeans and his cowboy hat. He wanted me to find him some cowboy boots, but I told him fat chance.

Friday morning, they had the parade of flags. All the students marched on the field and stood behind their country flag. It was so interesting to see how many countries were represented at their school. Countries like, Ethiopia, Azerbaijan, Pakistan, Swaziland, Denmark, Sweden, Netherlands, India, Argentina, Columbia, Mexico, Thailand, Malaysia, Philippines, and many others. They had the Olympic music playing and it was quite stirring to see all the students. Then they marched off and into the theater where they presented each country and its flag and the children cheered for each one. The school choir sang some very moving numbers about children all over the world and singing a song of peace. It brought tears to my eyes.

For lunch that day, they had the ‘Taste of the World’ lunch. Parents signed up to bring dishes from their home countries and the kids were able to try them. Then they had another assembly where several children did their traditional dances. The Koreans did the fan dance; two Argentinean kids did a dance, the Indonesians, Americans, and several others. The boys loved it.

It’s good for the boys to see that the world is a big place and that we can all come together. They have made friends with kids from all over the world.

Thanksgiving

We are going to do our best this Thursday to celebrate Thanksgiving. The turkey won’t fit in our oven (I had to pay a small fortune to get a turkey) so we are going to try to BBQ it. We are keeping the boys home from school and Creed is taking the day off.

We hope you will all enjoy this time of year. We want you all to know that we miss you and think of you often. We are thankful for this experience we are having and also thankful for family and friends. Happy Thanksgiving.

Photos: 18 Nov 2005 - UN Day






Photos: 10 November 2005 - Mallory's Birthday

Photos: 12 November 2005 - Baseball

A few photos from the boys' first baseball games. They were actually practice games, and uniforms aren't ready yet.




Wednesday, November 9, 2005

Letter: Yogyakarta Trip 6 November 2005

Idul Fitri

The Muslims holiday at the end of Lebaran (fasting month / Ramadhan) is a two-day celebration called Idul Fitri, which was on Thursday and Friday of last week. The city of Jakarta basically empties during the week of Idul Fitri. All the domestic workers that have come here from all over the country go home to their villages taking gifts and money to their families. We have been told that a normal 4 hour bus ride can take all day right before Idul Fitri because of all the people trying to leave. Trains, busses and any other kind of transportation are packed with people. People started to leave the city on Monday so traffic in Jakarta was great. The air even seemed a little less polluted.

Jogjakarta (also spelled Yogyakarta)

The boys happen to also have the week off because of their mid-semester break, so we decided to go on a vacation. We were going to go to Bali and had tickets and hotel reservations, but decided about a week before that we would go to Jogja instead. We got on the waiting list for a flight to Jogja for Tuesday, Nov. 1. We were told we wouldn’t know if we were on the flight until two days before. We were happy to get on the flight and we left Tuesday morning.

We had reservations at the Hyatt Resort and it was wonderful! We spent a lot of time at the pool which had a 70 meter waterslide and many other pools to swim around in. It was so beautiful. The boys couldn’t get enough of the waterslide and I couldn’t get enough of relaxing by the pool with a good book, sipping my new favorite drink, a pineapple smoothie! Creed was nice to swim with the boys and Mallory so much. Mallory loved the water and especially the waterfall in one of the pools. We all have sunburns to show how much we enjoyed sitting by the pool. As a special treat, on most days we ordered lunch poolside. The boys thought that was great.

While in Jogja, we hired a guide for three days to take us to several interesting places and explain everything to us. We enjoyed visiting the largest Hindu Temple in Indonesia, Prambanan, and the largest Buddhist Temple in the world, Borobudur (both temples were built around 800 – 850 AD and have been restored). It was horribly hot and we were dripping the entire time, but it was amazing to see these buildings that have been around for 1200 years. We also saw the Ramayana ballet (no pink slippers here, though). The story originates in India, I think, but it is pretty famous in Indonesia because the story is carved into the walls of the Prambanan temple. For a two hour show, I was impressed with how interested our boys were. It was very interesting to watch the story and see the traditional Indonesian dancers and the unusual way they move their body. There was also a live Indonesian ‘orchestra’ with traditional instruments like gongs, drums, and xylophone-like instruments. We really enjoyed that.

One morning our guide took us to the Kraton, which is the Sultan’s Palace (Sultan’s have reigned over the Jogjakarta region for several hundred years, but about 30 years ago they started holding elections for the governor of Jogjakarta, and the current Sultan is also the elected governor – imagine that!). Life inside this palace is very traditional. It was interesting to see all of the preparations they were making for Idul Fitri events. We also visited the local bird market, or as Creed said jokingly to our guide, the ‘bird flu market.’ Our guide assured us there was no bird flu, but while we were walking through it, I was on the nervous side. The place was filthy and smelled horrible. In addition to selling live birds, people were selling all sorts of fruits, vegetables, and animals – alive and dead. There were people with dead chickens sitting on tables. If you wanted to buy one or any part of one, the woman would chop it up right there and hand it to you. Flies were all over the chickens and who knows how long they had been sitting in the sun. I can’t imagine how many diseases were in that place. It gives me the heeby geebies just thinking about it. I just wanted to get out of there. The market wound all over the place and our guide was a typical islander on a leisurely walk. He, for some reason, assumed we all wanted to see that place. The boys did enjoy seeing all the different kinds of birds, snakes, insects, bats and the most pathetic looking squirrels I ever did see. It was interesting, but an experience I care never to repeat. Maybe if the whole bird flu thing wasn’t such an issue it would have been better.

We went downtown and walked around one night and did a little shopping/bargaining for a few little souvenirs. We were the entertainment for the night for most of the people walking by. We heard ‘bulai’ meaning ‘white person’ an awful lot. My Indonesian teacher taught me how to bargain in Indonesian so we were able to get some fair prices.

We went to a wonderful restaurant (restaurants here are always a gamble) one night. The menu had just about everything. Nash, our food-adventurous child, ordered the roast goose. He loved it! Grant ordered chicken teriyaki and Creed had the snapper. We all loved the atmosphere of this outdoor restaurant and the food.

On Friday, we visited a batik factory (batik is the traditional print on material and is used on clothing, scarves, table cloths, sarongs, everything) and saw how they make the prints with wax and dye. We bought a table cloth for the round table in the piano room. We also visited a silver shop and were shown how they make the fine filigree things that Jogja is known for. We then drove about 45 minutes to Parangtritis, a beach on the Indian Ocean. Very odd experience. We arrived and there were so many people at the beach it looked like it was crawling with a bunch of ants. People were swimming in their clothes, sitting on the beach, flying kites, riding their motorcycles on the beach, everything. We, again, were the entertainment for all of the Indonesians. We were the only white people for miles. Nash and I just wanted to get out of there but Creed wanted to find something to do to justify the fact that we had just driven 45 minutes to get there. Not only are we spectacles to people here, but the fact that we have a baby with very blue eyes makes us even more unusual. Everyone was pointing at us and some people were following us. Indonesians have no shame in completely staring at you. Even if you look straight back at them, they won’t move their eyes until they are finished looking. It’s very uncomfortable to me. Anyway, Grant and Luke wanted to ride on a pony and Creed wanted to stay and take some pictures and look around. There were these little two-wheeled carriages pulled by a horse and for $1.50 per cart (which was probably the ‘white person’s’ price) we could get a 15 minute ride down the entire beach and back. Luke and Grant begged to have a ride so Nash and I stood there wanting to run away while Creed went with the other two. When they came back they were all smiles. They loved it and wanted to go again so we got 2 carriages and everyone went. It was fun to ride, and Mallory thought it was great.

Needless to say, it wasn’t the most pleasant beach experience and we will never go there again, but at least we went.

Home Again

We came home from Jogja Saturday morning and our staff was here waiting for us. They had already cleaned the house and turned on the A/C’s for us before we arrived so the house was cool. I was happy to see them and they seemed so much happier now that the fasting month is over (aren’t we all HE HE HA HA). Warsi had all of our laundry washed and put away before we went to bed. What a life.

On Saturday we also went to the mall, saw ‘Chicken Little’, Nash and Creed got haircuts and we picked up some presents for Mallory’s birthday.

We all had a wonderful holiday. We are sad to have to get back to reality. We are being slammed with it, actually. The boys are all on different baseball teams and Creed said he’d be willing to help coach if they needed him. Guess what, between Creed and I, we are coaching all three teams! What have we gotten ourselves into? Between the practices and games, we are going to have very little free time for the next few months. It will be fun to be with the boys, though.

We are excited to start planning our trip to Hong Kong Disneyland in December. We are excited to meet up two families from our Canton ward that now live in China and go to Disneyland and spend a few days in Hong Kong.

Photos: Parangtritis Beach 4 November 2005

Visiting a batik factory in Jogjakarta.

Nash and Grant in the tour bus -- they told us they were sitting in Business Class and that we were sitting on the back row in Economy.

The visit to Parangtritis beach.


Photos: 3 November 2005





The waterslide & pool at the hotel.
Dinner at the Gadjah Wong restaurant.

Photos: More Borobudur 3 November 2005





In the car on the way back from Borobudur to Jogjakarta, our give, Nurhadi, fell asleep.

Monday, November 7, 2005

Photos: Borobudur 3 November 2005






It was hot on Thursday morning when we went to Borobudur.

Photos: Yogyakarta 2 November 2005




The family around the hotel -- at the pool, waiting for a taxi, and watching a show.

Photos: Taman Sari, Yogyakarta 2 November 2005




After the bird market we walked through a tunnel to a place called Taman Sari, which is a swimming pool used by the Sultan and his family.

Photos: Bird Flu Market, Yogyakarta 2 November 2005

These first three shots are from our stroll through the Bird Flu Market.



We saw tons of people on the streets of Yogyakarta on Wednesday making little containers out of coconut or palm leaves for Idul Fitri. Apparently they boil rice inside the containers for about 5 hours and then eat it.